There are some strange incidents that are happening recently that you will find very difficult to believe. Its truly a strange world and strange things are happening daily. How will you describe this story of a young married lady who was still a virgin up to three years after her wedding despite the fact that the husband was not impotent?.
This is the story of a 29-year-old lady, Sadiya Lawal. Sadiya Lawal shared the story herself to the popular Jaruma Magazine asking the readers to advise her on what to do.
Sadiya’s story has since send the social media into a frenzy as many people do not believe the possibility of her story as it is really a strange story. Sadiya explained in full details how her now ex-husband who she met while serving as a corps member in Abuja refused to consumate their marrigae and how she was still a virgin even 3 years after their wedding.
Read Sadiya Lawal’s ordeal below in her very own words unedited
“MY NAME IS SADIYA LAWAL. I AM 29 YEARS OLD. I AM FROM BAUCHI STATE. I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE MY DIVORCE DIARIES WITH YOU
For me, it was love at first and Hamisu was the one.
I met my husband when I was a Corper. I was serving in Abuja at the time. It was a beautiful time in my life and I quickly fell in love with the tall handsome charming stranger I met at Dunes Centre. His name was Hamisu Mohammed. It was love at first sight.
I was at the restaurant when he walked towards the aisles. Our eyes met for a moment and that was it. It felt like electricity and my heart was almost beating out of my chest when he smiled and started walking towards me.
I tried to look away but his pull was too magnetic and I found myself smiling back at him.
‘Hello lady, you look like you are having a good time’ he said and my heart stopped for a minute as all my senses concentrated on listening to him
I just kept smiling like a fool as he kept smiling back. I don’t even remember what my reply was. We ended up sitting down and talking for like 3 hours that day. The rest, as they say, is history. A year after that fateful meeting we got married. It was a most beautiful day that I will cherish forever. I was so in love with him, he was everything.
As any typical northern girl, I excitedly prepared for my wedding night with a lot of gyaran jiki and Kayan Mata. The weeks before my wedding were filled with all sorts of skin treatments, consumption of aphrodisiacs and vaginal steaming all in anticipation of the big night. I looked forward to consummating our love on that special night.
On that special night, when all the glitz and glam of the wedding was done, it was just the two of us. I was so nervous and excited but Hamisu did not look interested. We talked for a while and then he fell asleep.Yes! My husband fell asleep on our first night. I did not know what do, whether to wake him up or to allow him sleep. I couldn’t hold myself I had to wake him up.
‘Honey, I don’t think we should be sleeping tonight. It is our first night, it is the Sunnah.. He cut me off with a kiss and we made out for a while; then he told me he couldn’t do anything that night because he was so tired from the activities of the wedding. Fair enough… so we slept off.
Two weeks later we were still sleeping together…that is we were only sleeping. At this point I became fed up. No matter how hard I tried to get him in the mood my husband did not seem interested in making me a woman. He would rather go to sleep.
Three months after my wedding and I was still a virgin. My husband was not interested in that part of our marriage though he was a wonderful husband in other areas. He was very supportive of my career, he took care of me, he cooked and cleaned up after himself, he made me laugh, he was affectionate but that was the end of it… after a while I gave up trying.
There were a lot of rumuor swirling around our social circles about my husband and his sexual preferences; but every single time he assured me he was working on being a lover I would cherish… eventually he always said.
The months were followed by a year then 2 years then 3 years and still our marriage remained unconsummated. I did not know what to do next. Friends told me to try and get his attention, to be uninhibited to be sexy blah blah blah.
I was sick and tired of hearing it was up to me to get my own husband to fulfill my marital rights. I was reaching my breaking point. It all became worse with the pressure and questions from our families about why we had not had children yet. How could we have children when we were living like roommates instead of husband and wife?
I confronted him and he told me he had been molested as a boy and he was working on being sexual for me. My heart went out to him and I left it at that, I prayed for him every day, to overcome his experience.
One day I went to work and suddenly my period came so I had to rush back home to clean up; as I lived just fifteen minutes away from my office. I walked into my living room to find my husband being sodomised by another man who was on top of him.
He had sweat beads on his face and his eyes were closed. They did not hear me open the door; neither did they notice me standing directly opposite them. Hamisu opened his eyes. He looked at me and I looked at him.
He pushed the man off him and that is when I recognised who he was. The man that was sodomising my husband was my father.
What the hell was my father doing here? With my husband? I ran to the kitchen and took my largest knife. The rage inside me was like red hot lava in a volcano and it was threatening to erupt and consume all of us. The betrayal! He would not touch me but he could sleep with my father! I was confused about my father, No maybe my mind was playing tricks on me… my father was gone by the time I returned from the kitchen.
Hamisu was Unclad and struggling to wear his trousers when I stabbed him, I missed and a chase ensued. I wanted to send him to hell where he belonged.
Finally, I got his hand; the knife sliced through skin and flesh and came out with blood spraying everywhere staining the white carpet. He groaned in pain: Sadiya!
I raised the knife again; I wanted to stab him in his heart, just like he had done to me. I wanted to damage him with all the rage inside me.
He was begging me and I was charging towards him to finish him off when I tripped and fell; the knife slipped away from my hand and in that moment the powerlessness of my situation hit me.
Yourstory is such a pathetic one, you really passed through a lot… I pray God will heal your wounded heart, and bring those perpetrators to Justice… It’s well with you dear…
What a terrible mistake of a marriage!!
So sorry bea. You were too patient, most ladies test their man potency and performance in bed before the thought of marriage. At the same time, it would be painful losing your virginity to someone who is not willing to marry you, especially after years of perseverance. Taking your life now will not change a thing, moreover, it’s against the teachings of the Bible and Quran. Rather, take care of yourself, look beautiful, sexy and responsible. Love yourself more than ever and love will walk straight into your life again; also don’t forget to pray to God for assistance. See how beautiful you are.
There is nothing new under d heaven, forget d past & move on with Ur life pls, there are gud men out there, dnt killed Ur self bcos of stupid useless man, as for Ur dad, leave him, talk to God on everything, He will healed Ur pain & provide a good suitor for u.
Yes you are strong my sister ,you took a rit dicition by living him ,but try to forget ,an move on with your life ,that’s the devil’s work to destroy you,forgive your parents .
That’s too bad,what a live this story is really touching, I feel so bad for her…
Just take it easy forget about taking your life, cos taking your life will not do you any good,truly time heals wounds, please don’t allow that useless man that didn’t deserve you or your love makes you take your life for nothing,your life is more than anything just move ahead and it shall be well with you…. You will truly find true love one day
What a pathetic story,take heart. It’s quite unfortunate that the two people involved in hurting you are the people that matters most in your life. Homosexuality is a very shameful act here in Nigeria. I pray God will give you a husband who is a real man.
We conquer occurrence of evil by exposing it, I wonder why you didn’t expose him, now he has remarried and the trend will continue.